For Angel and Leonard, growing their family through adoption was never a matter of if, it was always a matter of when. After 16 years together, the Boston-based couple began to think more seriously about that matter of when, "We started saying there are so many kids who need love and caring" explained Angel, "that's what spurred us to start looking".
In 2016, Angel and Leonard jumped head first into the process of becoming foster parents. Being a foster parent is an experience with many unknowns; you never know who the child will be, what their background is, or when they will be coming until they are in your home. With all these unknown variables in mind, the couple began to prepare for this new chapter.
In addition to attending MAPP classes, completing their home study, and fulfilling all other requirements they began to do their own research. The couple read books, listened to podcasts, and actively worked to bolster their own relationship.
"We went to therapy for a year before to prepare", said Leonard. While this extensive preparation couldn't give them answers to all the unknowns, it did provide them with the tools to be effective parents and advocates.
Angel and Leonard opened their home to foster children in 2016. In just 3 months they fostered 7 children. "We fell in love with a lot of children", stated Leonard. "It was hard, but it only confirmed that this was the route we were meant to take".
In March 2017, the couple attended the Beanstalk Adoption Party at Jordan's Furniture. It was here that they first met 6-year-old Jessie. "We had seen his profile at an adoption night at Park Street", said Angel, "I was talking to one of the social workers who had trained us at the MAPP classes and I looked down and there he was!"
With all the unknowns involved in fostering and adopting, meeting Jessie was a unique experience. As soon as they met the sweet 6-year-old, Angel and Leonard knew that he was going to be their son. Leonard, an experienced real estate agent explained that he always tells his clients "you'll know it when you feel it". There are certain things in life that just feel right, and for the future fathers, meeting Jessie was one of them.
Jessie moved in several months later and they began to navigate life together as a family of three. While Jessie adjusted well to life in his new home, there was still a fear that this placement might be temporary.
On June 30, 2017 Angel and Leonard adopted Jessie. Both fathers note that Jessie immediately felt a deeper sense of comfort knowing that he would be a part of this family forever. The stability of one home had immediate effects on Jessie's development.
"He has changed leaps and bounds", stated Leonard, "He came off his IEP and he is adapting well". Of course, life as a new family has not had its share of unique challenges.
One of the more surprising challenges, which they had to quickly address, was the fact that Jessie had been with his last foster mother for three and a half years. "DCF works hard to find good foster parents and we realize that he loved his foster mom and you don't think about how that will affect them afterwards," Leonard explained. With patience, consistent support, and love, the couple has been able to help Jessie understand that he is surrounded by permanent love.
Luckily, the couple has been able to rely on the tools they developed through all their preparation as well as a strong community to make sure Jessie feels supported. In fact, they have encouraged others in their community to foster and adopt. Leonard stated, "I would recommend going through the whole process of fostering and adoption to anyone." He added, "You have to be willing to do your homework on yourself though".
Today, Jessie loves being outdoors with his fathers. They spend time together swimming, reading, and camping. Both fathers agree that one of the greatest parts of bringing a child into their family has been that they get to look at the world through Jessie's eyes and re-appreciate life.